I first want to apologize for being a bit MIA lately. All of a sudden I got crazy busy at the job that pays me. Add in some planned travel, unplanned travel, the city catching on fire, August being one of the most difficult months for a lot of people and TA DA! No blogging for me.
But today I am completely unmotivated to do yard or house work, so firing this baby up!
I was asked a few weeks back by a friend if I thought a blog post about friendship and business would be something I would want to talk about. I thought it was a fantastic idea, one I have touched on briefly before but haven’t really gone in-depth.
So here we go.
I THINK TRUE FRIENDSHIPS ARE VITAL TO A SUCCESSFUL CAREER
Now there IS a difference between “being friends” with someone and “being friendly friends.” I’m friendly friends with a whole lot of people. Social media has certainly expanded that list. Every year, I meet more and more people in comics and publishing. So the friendly circle continues to grow, as does the good friend circle.
The difference for me only involves a couple of points that really all revolve around a level of trust. To me a “friend” is someone you would help no matter what, someone to share the things you can’t talk about in public, someone you could call on for honest advice, someone who would stand by you and help you in your darkest, lowest place. And someone who grounds you when you’re at your highest.
That all being said, I can honestly say except for maybe two people in my life and my family, all of my really good friends I met through doing business of some sort.
Some of them I met, became friends and then ended up working with. Some of them I worked with, then ended up becoming friends.
Sometimes my Director of Photography, who I haven’t gotten to see very much lately, calls me just to check in and chat. We talk about his kids, wife, film equipment, funny things that happened to us lately and tons more. I often talk to one of my closest friends about the state of the comics and publishing industry along with possible solutions, for hours, cause we both know all the players, the in’s and out’s of the publishing business, etc… I love those conversations.
My BEST friend is also my business parter, as well as my husband. We tackle everything we do as a team. Working each problem and celebrating each victory, together.
I would do anything for these guys. Yes, ANYTHING. And in turn, I know they will always be there for me when I need them. I love all of them and am very glad and proud to call all of them my very good friends.
GET TO THE POINT ALLISON.
(It does explain why I am a con junkie. CON= GET TO SEE MY FRIENDS) Anyway.
I’ve come to realize that without friends, Chris and I would’ve never gotten to the place we are in our lives professionally. And because we were willing to open ourselves up to accepting help from friends, we’ve become strong advocates of helping other friends pursue THEIR endeavours.
Which I think is really cool, personally.
There is nothing I love more than making introductions, making all my friends, friends with each other. If that is beneficial professionally for them both, all the better.
WHAT HAPPENS WHEN A FRIEND LETS YOU DOWN IN BUSINESS?
Listen, we have been royally screwed by people we thought were good friends. That’s what happens when you put yourself out there. Did it completely suck? Absolutely. But in the end all crappy stuff in life is just a lesson you need to learn. And without those experiences, we wouldn’t be the people we are today.
I also became friends with a debt attorney in AZ. So there’s a silver lining. (sometimes you have to dig deep for those linings)
If you let the few bad eggs spoil the whole lot, well, you don’t have any eggs. People can suck. It happens. Move on.
TRY TO BE A FRIEND TO EVERYONE
Now not everyone is going to be “your people.” Sometimes it just doesn’t jive. You don’t have to be best buds with everyone. But if you make an effort from the get go, everybody wins.
This has always been my philosophy. Comes in real handy when things start going wrong and is awesome when things go right.
Who wouldn’t want to be friends with the coolest most talented people on the planet?